For those people that are unattached and trying to get in the middle of the dating scene, there are some pointers that you may be able to use in trying to land a great dating partner. Most dating advice you’ll find is meant to help you become a part of a couple and no longer single. In addition, it’s mostly common sense stuff that you probably already knew but had simply forgotten. Dating in the 21st century is a lot different than in any other era, but it’s a lot of fun and can be the highlight of your life.
Dating as a Single
When you’re single, there are many doors that you can open in trying to meet that potential dating partner. However, the first thing you need to do before you start opening any of those doors is figure out what you’re looking for in a dating relationship. Then, you’ll know exactly where to look and how to make your approach to the person that interests you.
Typical places to find dating partners are through friends, at schools, churches and any other places that you may frequent. Now, your close friends that are in relationships will usually be thrilled to set you up with someone that they just KNOW is perfect for you. This can be an excellent idea or it can be a disaster. It kind of depends on just how well your friends actually know you.
If you’re religious, chances are you’re part of a church in your community. Many churches have groups for singles that allow them to mix and mingle with each other. People with the same beliefs and values are usually pretty good matches. You’ll already have something major in common and religious views are usually very important in relationships.
Another way to meet potential dating partners is through the Internet. There are literally hundreds of thousands of dating websites these days to choose from. If you don’t want to join a dating site, there are also chat rooms set up for people to get to know each other. The websites are usually safer and offer a more organized way of meeting the right people, though.
A unique dating venue that’s been around for several years is that of speed dating. Organizations put together events for singles of all kinds to attend. The attendees are then given anywhere from 3 to 5 minutes with each other to get acquainted. Once everyone has spent some time together, the event is ended. Anyone that’s interested in being contacted by someone they chatted with will pass this information onto the organizers and that will be given to the person in question. What happens after that is in the hands of the chosen ones. This isn’t a free way of meeting dating partners but it can be a fun way to spend an evening.
Just remember that no matter how you choose to find your dating partners, be safe about it. Go slow at first and take all precautions. You’ll be happy you did.
Single and Loving It
It seems that ever since there have been males and females walking the earth that they all try to find their perfect mates and pair up. Even in the time of cave men and women, there were couples that hooked up and became mates. As time went on, girls were married off as young as 13 or 14 years old, usually because of the short life expectancy of the era. That gradually turned the ages for getting married into later ones. Now, it seems that even 25 year olds may not be mature enough for that type of a commitment.
Something else that’s become a bit of a trend is the amount of people that remain single simply because they want to be. This is starting to be much more common than anyone would think. No one really knows the reason for it, but there doesn’t seem to be just one reason, either. Instead, if you ask someone why they’re single, it’s common to get a variety of reasons.
One of the biggest causes of choosing to be single has to do with careers. Women as well as men are involved in high level and hugely busy careers these days, and often there’s just not time to maintain a relationship. These people generally prefer to go out with friends and spend time with their families rather than become heavily involved romantically with someone. They will say that their careers take up too much time for them to devote themselves to building a relationship. Maybe, once they slow down a bit or change careers, they’ll get more serious about finding a partner. But at the moment, their careers are their lives.
Another reason for choosing to remain single is that some people just don’t like being tied down to only one person. They like their freedom and the fact that they don’t have to answer to anyone. These are the people that just like being on their own. They like being able to come and go when they want, and make their own plans without having to consult anyone else. It’s this attitude that keeps them single and happy about it.
Many people simply don’t wish to be legally tied to another person. When you marry someone, you take on any credit or legal issues they may have. This is particularly true when it comes to debt and credit problems. If your name is tied to that person, anytime your credit is checked for anything, it’s very possible that your partner’s credit problems will also surface. You may want to check into such things as these when you’re considering a serious relationship with someone.
These aren’t the only reasons that people choose to remain single, by far. However, they are the top ones. If you’re a part of the population that enjoys the single life, don’t feel guilty about it. Yes, your parents may be hoping for grandchildren one day, but it’s your life and not theirs. They’ve already made their choices. Now it’s your turn to make yours.