It might not sound like such a desirable thing to be called a “romantic man”. But wait a minute. Doesn’t whether it’s a good thing or a bad thing depend on who it is that thinks you are a romantic man?
Your poker playing buddies calling you “romantic” might be cause enough to punch somebody in the nose. On the other hand, if the woman you are dating calls you “romantic”, that is a very good thing. Just because you like pampering your lady doesn’t mean that you are any less a man than any other man. You can spend your day finishing your basement, working on your car, just getting your hands dirty so to speak but at the end of that day there’s nothing quite like the look of love and care on your significant others face when you cook an impromptu dinner for her. And the benefits of what happens after dinner, or even before you get dinner done, far outweigh any negative connotations being labeled a romantic have.
So what is it exactly that makes a woman see a man as romantic? Most of the time it’s the little things that women notice. A glance, a quick touch or brush across her back. Sure, flowers are nice, but haven’t they almost become a cliché. That’s not to say women don’t like flowers because they do, but if that’s all you’ve got then it will only go so far. You have to mix it up, change your style and use your imagination to create romantic moments.
Key Factor for a Romantic Date
The key factor in creating romantic moments is to put the lady’s likes ahead of your own.
Creating romantic moments is so easy it’s a wonder every man in the world doesn’t “get” this. All you have to do is think of an activity built around something she likes to do. Does she like shopping (not something men even like to think about much less do), fine dining, walks on a beach, watching movies and the list goes on. It’s all about doing something she likes with her. What will make such activities seem even more romantic to her is if you choose to do something she likes to do with her when a ball game is on TV that you could be watching with your buddies. She will feel chosen. And that, my friend, is VERY romantic indeed.
It doesn’t matter which activity to choose to participate in with the woman that you want to think of you as romantic. The trick is for you to be totally involved mentally in the activity and not staring off into space or obviously just wishing it were over so you could go do what you really want to do. Remember this is you trying to be romantic so concentrate on the project at hand.
The more that you dislike the activity that you choose, the more romantic it makes it for her that you chose to do it with her. The fact that it was your idea sends the romance factor through the roof.
It really is so very easy to create romantic moments. With only a little thinking and planning, romantic moments can happen every day and at the most unexpected moments. Being romantic is a win/win situation. There is no reason not to make romantic moments happen at every opportunity.
A romantic date can be planned, or it can just happen accidentally or by coincidence. In either case, there are some factors that must be present for magical and romantic moments to happen.
The Right Ambience
Among the factors needed for dating occasion to be romantic, are three that can be described as ‘A’ factors – ambience, activity and attraction – between two individuals who are dating.
Ambience is what creates the all important feature of mood. The mood, which is the overall environment and atmosphere of a location, has to be right for the time spent there to be considered romantic. The mood created by the ambience can propel what would be an average of ordinary date into one that becomes romantic. The mood is therefore what helps to create sparks to make the time together feel special, magical and romantic.
Among the things that help to create the right ambience for romance are the lighting, music and an attractively decorated environment. Lighting that creates a romantic moment for a date is usually subdued. This can be in the form of controlled lighting with a switch to modulate it, or it can be from the use of candles. The presence of candlelight is pretty much a must-have for romantic experiences while dating, if there is no controlled lighting.
Lighting by itself isn’t enough to bring out the romance factor in a date. The right lighting has to be paired with the right type of music to truly be able to have an effect on the atmosphere and on the two individuals who are dating. While music tastes differ and vary, and musical melodies differ from one culture to another, romantic music usually also has a subdued quality. Music and lighting can therefore be seen as the twin factors that must be present to create a romantic date.
The right ambience for a romantic date is also enhanced by an attractive and pleasant environment.
Simply stated, the place where individuals go on a date, where they plan to spend time and where they may hope to have romance in the air, must be clean and pleasant. This can be achieved with minimal decorations. The most important factor is that you and your date must feel comfortable and totally at ease, which will happen if you are in a pleasant surrounding.
Along with ambience, the activity to be engaged in during the date also will determine if the time on the date will be experienced or looked back on as a romantic one. Again, while different individuals will vary in the activities they choose for a dating experience, there are some that ware more conducive to creating romance.
Going out to dinner, or staying in at home for a dinner date is one of the most sure ways to get or set romantic fires alight during a date. It’s unexplainable, but there is something about the combination of good food, good music and low lights or candle lights that can transform eating into a romantic affair.
Attraction is Important
And lastly, even with all the above-mentioned factors, time spent on a date will not be romantic unless the two individuals are attracted to each other. Romance happens when a touch, a glance or some other gesture cause that warm feeling to envelop the two individuals who are dating, and also happens to them simultaneously.
While certain factors can be present to enhance the creation of a romantic date, it can’t be planned. If you have a date with some or all of the factors previously mentioned however, and if you are highly attracted to your date, you likely will share a memorable dating experience that just may turn out to be a very romantic one.